The other day I discovered that the chain to a treasured pendant had gotten knotted up. For the next 5 minutes I worked and worked on getting out that knot. Getting nowhere except frustrated, I kept wondering what was going to happen if I couldn’t get it out. Someone special had given me that necklace and this would ruin everything!!
Red faced and stressed, I finally stopped and walked away. For the rest of the day I didn’t give it another thought.
That evening I noticed it lying there still all knotted up. This time it took me barely 30 seconds to get that knot out.
The clarity? Sometimes you have to walk away, clear your head and not work so hard. Things will always work themselves out, at the right time, in the right circumstances.
Although sometimes a knot is just a knot.
I got asked today, by a kindergartner, if I was a grown up. I am sure it had a lot to do with the fact that I am so short but it got me thinking about all the ways I don’t behave like one.
- I don’t always eat my veggies
- I pretend to not notice when the car is dirty
- If I could I would eat ice cream for dinner
- If I didn’t have a husband I would never make my bed
- I am, I am, I am afraid of the dark
- My feelings still get really hurt
- Bed time is for wimps
- I still think “no fair” over certain injustices
- It doesn’t bother me that my ears ring for 2 days after a concert
- I don’t iron…AT ALL!
- I believe discipline stifles creativity
- The “I am not touching you” game is still really funny
It’s a simple existence..but it’s mine!
— Kindergartner at my daughter’s school My response? “No, not really”
-Clinton from What Not To Wear
And boy do I!
“Everything happens for a reason” she thought as he drove away, her heart as battered as the old truck he left her. Does “absence make the heart grow fonder” or is it “out of sight, out of mind”? As she transferred the band from left to right it seemed that only “time would tell”.
Settling down into the cheap sofa its cushions as hard as her resolve to move on, it became obvious what had happened. They say “opposites attract” but that didn’t mean they always would.
When magnets are twisted and turned they can repel each other. Was it their differences and an unfortunate ”twist of fate” that had ultimately repelled them?
“If you love something set it free” Set it free she had, even though he had asked her to wait for him. Wait for him in that broken down apartment with that broken down truck and an even more broken down spirit.
“If you love something set it free..if it comes back to you it’s yours” Would he return? Better yet, would she let him?
All she had to embrace now were the hands on the clock. Was “time on her side”? It didn’t feel like it but they do say “time heals all wounds”.
And she was bleeding..
Romantic comedies, otherwise known as “chick flicks”, have become a main staple in most everyone’s movie diet.
A staple because?
They make you laugh, dream, and believe in love in all its forms; love at first sight, unrequited love, young love, and even love against all odds by suspending reality for a little while.
Suspending reality because, let’s face it, real love and romance can’t hold a candle to the stories played out on that big screen. Here are some reasons why real life romance can’t live up to the cinema.
- A boombox serenade would result in a restraining order (“Say Anything”)
- Love does not conquer all..especially amnesia and comas (“50 First Dates” and “While You Were Sleeping”)
- No guy would want to date a girl after seeing her fake “O” face (“When Harry Met Sally”)
- Fate will only go so far and it’s usually not cross country (“Sleepless in Seattle” and “Serendipity”)
- Love is not found on a street corner, through an escort or by bribing the hottest girl in school with a suede outfit (“Pretty Woman”, “Wedding Date” and “Can’t Buy Me Love”)
- Love, unfortunately, does not come with a fantastic soundtrack or Peter Gabriel theme song (“The Wedding Singer” and “Say Anything”)
- Never in a million years would these opposites attract (“When Harry Met Sally” and “Knocked Up”)
- Hot lawyers rarely seek out ditzy, chain smoking drunks (“Bridget Jones’ Diary”)
- Only in the movies are guys this neurotic sexy (“High Fidelity” and “Annie Hall”)
- No woman can attain such levels of elegance as Audrey Hepburn (“Breakfast at Tiffany’s” and “Roman Holiday”)
- A 40 year old virgin? Yeah right.. (“The 40 Year Old Virgin”)
- During high school in the 80’s the rich guy wouldn’t have even looked at the girl from the wrong side of the tracks, no matter if she had red hair or not! (“Pretty in Pink”)
Despite all this romantic comedies will still be made, flocked to, cried, laughed and sighed over. Why? All of us, even cynics love to dream..even if it is for only 90 to 120 minutes.
Forget your mom and forget kindergarten, high school and college. All you ever REALLY needed to know is found in John Hughes’ movies. My love affair, internship, obsession, or whatever you want to call it, with Hughes began with a little tale of birthday induced teen angst called “Sixteen Candles”. Alone in the darkened theater (yeah I saw it in the theater) you could feel the pain, the hardship and the eventual triumph of Samantha Baker as she fended off overzealous nerds, incoherent house guests, and unsympathetic family members.
“Sixteen Candles” turned out to be the gateway drug that led to ”Pretty in Pink” and the much grittier “The Breakfast Club” all of which formed a perfect trilogy on how to survive our teen years while giving us a taste of our inevitable adult lives.
Here is some of what I gleaned from the master of the 80’s and if nothing else, at least you know you were not alone!
- Good girls finish first (Andie ”Pretty in Pink” and Sam ”Sixteen Candles”)
- Nerds do too (The Geek “Sixteen Candles”)
- Scumbags/bad boys can be really hot (Steff “Pretty in Pink” and John Bender “The Breakfast Club”)
- Daddy really does know best (Jim Baker “Sixteen Candles”)
- On second thought maybe not..(Jack Walsh “Pretty in Pink”)
- Being crazy/neurotic has its charm (Allison Reynolds the Kook “The Breakfast Club” and Cameron Frye “Ferris Bueller’s Day Off”)
- High school sucks for most everyone (every teen movie Hughes ever made)
- Computers can produce happiness (“Weird Science”)
- “Don’t mess with the bull young man. You’ll get the horns” (Richard Vernon - Principal “The Breakfast Club”)
- A terrible birthday can be saved by a red Porsche driving hunk (Jake Ryan “Sixteen Candles”)
- The Beatles will ALWAYS be cool (“Ferris Bueller’s Day Off”)
- Stereotypes are alive and well (Long Duck Dong “Sixteen Candles” and every character in “The Breakfast Club”)
- You can do a bang up lip synched version of “Try a little Tenderness” but you still may not get the girl (Duckie “Pretty in Pink”)
- Friendship can come from very unexpected places (“Planes, Trains & Automobiles”)
- Sometimes pink isn’t pretty (Andie’s prom dress in “Pretty in Pink”)
- Crazy is relative…literally (“Uncle Buck”)
- Being a stay-at-home mom doesn’t look as easy or fun as you thought it would be (“Mr. Mom”)
- Only the fabulous can pull off red hair (Molly Ringwald and me)
I think that pretty much sums up life as we (or I, at least) know it. I think I have enough to move forward until someone as profound as Hughes comes along with more cinematic wisdom. Although that is highly unlikely.
I love having an literary alter ego…now how can I parlay it into a successful superhero career?
tumblrbot asked: WHAT IS YOUR FAVORITE INANIMATE OBJECT?
A Straw..on its own it may be inanimate but it doesn’t take more than a pair of lips to activate it.